PODCAST DETAILS
Title: Bold Beautiful Borderline
Host: Sara Abbott
Platform/Availability: Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major podcast platforms
Episode: Borderline Rage “I will ruin your fucking life”
Year: re-released 7th December 2025
Host background: Sara is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with lived experience of BPD.
1. WHY I CHOSE TO LISTEN TO THIS
I decided to see if I could find some podcasts about BPD and this was one of the first to come up in the search. A therapist with lived experience is such a powerful combination and I was keen to tap into her wisdom.
I picked this recent re-release episode as a starting point because I find rage extremely challenging – both my own and other people’s. And my daughter experiences a lot of rage.
2. WHAT IT COVERS
Sara breaks down in detail a recent argument she had with her husband: what she was feeling and why, and how it was resolved. She then goes back and gives examples from her past of when she experienced rage and dealt with it less well. She reads out responses she had from people with BPD as to what rage feels like to them. She goes into some of the theory behind BPD rage, DBT skills and guidance for people who might be on the receiving end of it.
3. STRENGTHS
Sara is highly articulate and speaks passionately and with great clarity about her own experience and as a therapist. I loved the ‘case studies’ from her own life.
4. LIMITATIONS
FYI there is the occasional swear word – in case you’re thinking of listening to it in a public space!
Sara does give some brief advice to people who are on the receiving end of BPD rage, but this isn’t the focus of the episode.
5. TONE AND SENSITIVITY
She describes her podcast as raw, honest and sometimes humorous and that’s what I got from this episode. She has great empathy for her listeners who have BPD – their strengths and their struggles.
6. PERSONAL REFLECTION
I think I’m going to re-listen to this episode as there was so much for me to digest. Listening to her journey – things she did when she experienced rage when she was younger, to how she handled it in this recent argument with her husband left me with hope. My daughter is working so hard in therapy, but it’s a long, slow haul and sometimes it’s hard to see the progress, so it’s heartening to hear from someone who has stuck with it and is now in such a different place.
7. WHO IT IS FOR
I think it’s primarily for people with lived experience of BPD, but as someone supporting a loved one with it I also found it really useful.
8. STANDOUT QUOTE
It’s OK to feel anger for longer periods of time, it’s OK for all of those things to live there, it’s just simply what we do with it.
9. FINAL THOUGHTS
This podcast is now on my subscribed list!
